Six weeks ago we tied the knot and we are slowly getting back to normal life now. After all the months of preparation seeing everything on our wedding day come together so beautifully was awesome. I had worked hard on little details with the help of my sweet bridesmaids, then fiancé and family but it was hard to visualize the entire set-up with so many projects going on. The wedding was an absolutely amazing event and I’m hoping to always remember how happy we were that day. It was the perfect day filled with lots of love, smiles, dancing and fun. Read on for the detailed recap that might bore you but that will help us remember the day. 🙂
Easy, Fake Calligraphy for Our Wedding Invitations
Part of prepping for the wedding (less than four weeks!!! Yikes!) was to get the invitations out. I was being thrifty and used an online stationary company for the actual invitations but I wanted to jazz them up somehow – of course preferably low cost, high impact! Pretty envelope addressing to the rescue! Mind you I always had B- in penmanship (yup, you get grades for that in German elementary school) so this was a challenge – that luckily turned out being fun and looking chic!
The Tools
These are the pens I used. The Elegant Writer fake calligraphy felt pen came from Michaels and has a rectangular, flat tip. Target also has fairly inexpensive calligraphy pens. They come in various sizes so pick your favorite. Then you’ll need a gel pen or round tip felt pen. Obviously I seem to have a thing for my pilot so I used a black Pilot G-2 gel pen for the address.
1. Practice
Next up you want to practice! If you google “calligraphy alphabet” you’ll find a boatload of inspiration for lettering. To keep it nice and easy I found that staying away from double lines helps – snorkles and the differing widths that the calligraphy pen automatically writes in should be pretty enough for the novice writer. I have found that both printing and scripting look really pretty and are EASY. So hopefully your generation still learned writing script in elementary school and you can access it somewhere in the back of your head. Best advice: practice, practice, practice and see what looks good to you and what doesn’t (–> the importance of ordering a few extra envelopes with your invitations). I also cut or folded lots of paper in the actual size of the envelopes to get a feel for the dimensions and size letters that work best.
As for the address, stay consistent and focus on every single letter and number you write. Yes, it will take ages. Yes, it will be worth it.
2. The Last Name
I started by writing the recipients’ last names diagonally on the envelope using the calligraphy felt pen. Short names I wrote bigger, long names were smaller in letter size. When I had guests with different last names I wrote both of them – smaller of course – on two different lines. I usually tried to connect some of their letters – say the line of a t to the tail of a p or the last names. Sometimes the ampersand worked as a great connector. If I hadn’t added any swirls as I initially drew the letters, I would try to carefully add some now. Be careful not to overdo that though – it can easily start to look really funny. Again, google particular letters or write out a name in a script or handwriting font on your computer for inspiration.
3. The Address
My envelopes were white, which gave me a chance to insert a piece of paper with black sharpie lines into them to use as guides. You can also draw lines with a pencil – I however was too lazy to do that and erase them all afterwards. Isn’t that such a pain especially when you can see where you erased?! So use a ruler, draw some black lines that will shine through your envelope on it and just move it from one envelope to the next.
Write the guests’ names with proper salutations (unless they have really really long names). Take a look at the 3 in the second line. My normal handwritten 3 looks more like half of an 8. Yup, little effort, big difference though.
Try to keep the line length consistent. Yeah sounds easy, it’s harder in person. I’ve used a separate notebook to spell out the address and see how far I have to stretch the letters to make it work. If you have the chance, write out the state. If there’s a long town name, abbreviate the state.
Finally, the zip code! To get that nice and neat look, start with the first and last digit and place them at the front and end of the block. Then add the middle digit to the center of the line and the missing two in the center of the gaps. Lastly I added little dots that looked like tiny squares between the numbers thanks to the awesome fake calligraphy felt pen.
EASY! LOOKS FANCY! ALMOST FREE!
Boom goes the dynamite, you’ve got yourself some kick-ass wedding invitation envelopes! If I can do it, so can you!
Super Creative Bridal Shower
One of the American wedding traditions that we don’t have back home is a bridal shower. And then there are also showers for expecting moms (baby showers). The original concept was to shower the (young) bride with gifts so she is ready for her own household. Granted we’re already living together so the gifts aspect was really secondary for me but I’ve always enjoyed the social aspects of showers. So I was a little on the fence as to whether or not I wanted to have one but the whole “you only have one chance in your life to have one (hopefully)” concept prevailed. My awesome U.S. based bridesmaids really hit the nail on the head in terms of how to throw the perfect bridal shower.
The girls really outdid themselves with super cute self-made decoration including tissue paper pendants, accordion photo displays, a decorated bridal chair, chalkboard calligraphy, arranged flower bouquets and then some. They had also set up stations to sign a champagne bottle where guests could leave us sweet notes for our first anniversary and with notecards for marriage advice.
The food and beverage were excellent with mimosas, infused waters, salad with bacon vinaigrette, fresh fruit, kebobs, quiche and home-made cupcakes. DELICIOUS!
We played a fun game where the ladies had to do a dare or answer questions about the bride or the bride and groom. And then as a take home party favor my bridesmaids had put together this awesome make-your-own tea bar! They had loose Ceylon, Green and Earl Grey teas as bases and then you would mix your flavor additions like orange peel and chai spices in. How creative and perfect for this tea lover!
I’m sooo glad I had a bridal shower. It was so wonderful spending girly time with everyone and it was so festive and the girls’ creativity blew me away. I’m one lucky gal!
Ninty Day Engagement Check-In
We’ve been watching this show “90 Day Fiance” where Americans bring their fiancees to the country with a K1 visa and then have to get married within 90 days. As a multi-national couple we can relate to a few of the issues the couples are facing like missing family members and friends from abroad that can’t attend their weddings here. But then they also deal with issues like creepy ex-wives, the girl not eating in front of her future in-laws or them just marrying for green cards. Us, not so much! In fact, I vividly recall stuffing my face with glorious southern food at the waffle house in front of Michael’s parents while my green card was in my purse. Smothered, covered, loaded, gravied, …., hash browns?! Bring it on!!
But they all achieve one thing very nicely: planning their weddings in 90 days. Kudos folks! Our planning is progressing really well going into 90 days of engagement, I’d say but I am sooooooo glad we still have 6 months until our big day.
We knocked out a few big items very fast. I had wanted to beat the rush from the newly engaged couples on Christmas so I was stressing out about a venue immediately after we came back from Vermont. I searched for venues around town and requested available dates and proposals right away. I loved the ones that had their rental fees published on their website! Sooo much easier! Luckily our barn had a few Saturdays in September open and after we snug out there to check it out I literally caught the lady during her last half hour in the office before leaving for the holidays and put our deposit down. Phew! Most important thing covered!
The next big item of the list that I was concerned about was the photographer. It seemed like either people’s photos were so average that I could take better photos (and I don’t want to pay for something I can do myself though that’d be hard on your own wedding day… It’s like going out to eat and you keep thinking I could do a better job. Just agitating.) The other extreme were beautiful story telling photos but at double our budget. Uffda! If you are one of my married friends I probably asked you who your wedding photographer was. Googling “wedding photographer” gets old when there are 181 million results and everyone with an iPhone calls themselves Wedding Photographer.
Will and Sara to the rescue! A friendly couple we know is getting married in May (yay congrats!) and their photographers a) had a great portfolio of beautiful wedding shots b) were in our price range and c) were open on our wedding day! Oh-mi-gosh! We spoke to them on the phone and drilled them with the obligatory “questions to ask your wedding photographer”, which they all answered to our full satisfaction. (ie Do you have back-up equipment? What happens if you are sick on our wedding day? Can we see a few complete weddings shots instead of just the highlights? ….. google a list, it’s helpful!) So bam, wedding photographer contract signed. Now we just have to figure out our complimentary engagement photo session.
We also talked to a few local hotels about blocks and picked the best deal for our guests. They were surprisingly terrible when it came to negotiating – I must be losing my German fear-inducing side. Hmpf! Michael found super awesome transportation between our venue and hotel. This was important to us, we didn’t need anyone to not have a glass of wine because of having to drive and a barn isn’t really a place that taxis hang out at….
We also have my dress and the bridesmaids dresses, our wedding bands, rental furniture and decoration, cake topper, save the dates and a few cool ideas for the reception. All in all, not bad for 90 days in and the more we plan and the big day comes together the more excited we are getting. *Squeeeeeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaal* 😀